Do you know a liar in your life? Don’t overthink just give a quick answer. Ready? See? Just thinking about it makes you feel angry and anxious and let me tell you – I feel that too!
Heck were humans so it’s normal to feel betrayed when someone lied to you but what if…you would know the signs? What if you can actually tell based on how they talk, move and look that they’re actually lying? Would you give it a try? Dang! You should!
How To Spot A Liar
If you’re ready to be a little detective **all girls are pretty good at this trust me** here’s a great TED TALK by Pamela Meyer on how you can spot a liar – backed up by science this girl is AMAZING. You definitely need to watch this you will learn A LOT and you need to be sure to have a cup of coffee and a notebook.
If you need more information, then let’s dive deeper.
Types of Lies
The White Lie – this is what stops us from hurting or insulting someone emotionally. Everyone lies a little as a way of getting through life without violence and aggression, and so as to not hurt people.
If you see someone wearing a new outfit that doesn’t suit them, you’ll tell them they look great, so as not to hurt them.
The Beneficial Lie – this is used by a person who intends to help others. Say for example, the rescue worker who pulls a child from the remains of a burning car and lies to the child that his mother and father are OK is saving the child, in the short term, from more trauma.
Doctors who lie to a patient on their deathbed to lift their spirits or prescribe fake meditation, placebos, to patients are also technically lying.
The Deceptive Lie – probably the most dangerous one, because the liar intends to harm or disadvantage the victim for their own benefit.
There are two main ways of deceitful lying – concealment and falsification.
In concealment, the liar doesn’t actually tell a lie, but withholds information. So Jane might tell her friend Mary that she saw Mary’s ex-boyfriend at a party last night. But she doesn’t reveal that she went home with him.
In falsifying, false information is presented as if it was true, intentionally. So Jane might tell Mary she didn’t enjoy the party and ended up going home early, alone.
The Malicious Lies – or rumor-mongering, are often used as weapons in a competitive situation. Malicious liars set out to destroy the character and reputations of their victims, usually with devastating and lasting results. Imagine if one of two men vying for the attention of the same woman told the woman that the other man had a sexually transmitted disease.
Types of Liars
Natural Liar – is someone who does have a conscience but is confident of their ability to deceive, and has been doing so since childhood. Often they learned to lie to their parents to avoid terrible punishments that would be handed out if they told the truth.
Many natural liars capitalize on this ability as adults by becoming trial lawyers, salespeople, negotiators, actors, politicians and spies.
Unnatural Liar – is a person who, as a child, was convinced by his parents it was impossible for him to lie and that the parent and others would always detect it.
These poor saps go through life telling everyone the truth about everything, insisting “I can never tell a lie” and causing anger and trouble among everyone they meet.
Romantic Liar – One of the most dangerous liars a woman can encounter, when this liar is operating, most women have little idea of what’s going on. They specialize in concealing the fact that they;re married while others are expert at posing as lawyers, doctors and successful business people in order to win respect and sex appeal.
These liars are limited only by their imagination. As a result, they can cause women enormous harm, emotionally, psychologically, and often, financially.
The usual goal of the Romantic Liar is to extract money, accommodation, sex and other benefits from an unsuspecting woman. In return, he pretends to offer her excitement and love.