If you’re a breadwinner, this article is hand crafted just for you. Sometimes, it’s not your choice to stand up to provide for the needs of others – the situation calls you to do it. Here are some scenario that may resonate with you.
Working in a city is not easy. Some people cannot even survive the stress and decided to go back to their province. It’s ironic how some people who never experienced working in a city will tell you… “Oh you work in Metro? Wow! Bigtime!” Huh? What?!
Wherever you go, you need money. Feeling thirsty? You need to buy a drink – and yes, get the cheapest bottled water possible. Oh my you’re hungry? Fast food stores is your best friend – you love combo meals, for less than 100 bucks you can at least, be satisfied. Oops! Snack time? Well, nothing left on my purse. Sigh.
Not just once, but twice a month – you have a significant amount to give to your loved ones. Whatever the reason is and even how much you care about them, sometimes it’s just doesn’t feel right.
There were times you feel they remember you only on 15th or 30th even that’s not even your birthday. Or when they need some money yet you cannot give, because you have to support yourself as well – they will make you feel guilty and such, you feel obliged to send out the very last surviving money in your savings account.
Survive or Thrive?
If you are a bread winner for few years now, how did you survive? How did you make it this far? If you have a very good support system (family or friends) living life in this way is not that difficult. Maybe someone help you out when paying bills or groceries etc. If you don’t take ALL of the responsibility to provide, you’re not the sole breadwinner.
For some of us who solely provide (bills, education, food, allowances, medication and etc.) it is HARD to get going.
Every single breadwinner will tell you it’s difficult to save for your own in the midst of this kind of responsibility. The key here is to discipline yourself and be aware of your situation. The worst thing that can happen to you is “grow old with no or little money for yourself!”
It’s time to realize that…
Whoever you support, be honest with them about your situation. You are not a money making machine and you know how hard it is to earn money so you need to tell those people that it is hard!
Sometimes, people we support don’t have any idea what we’re going through unless you tell them. And if they don’t care, stop feeding them! These people don’t care about you, they care about what you can do for them!!!
If you will help people, be sure you are helping because you care and have extra for yourself. Not because you want something in return. This is not an investment thing – that’s why it’s called GIVING. If you feel that you are not appreciated, respected tell them – in a polite manner (as much as possible).
You cannot live your whole life as a VICTIM – you have to do something else!
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